Well, I'm going to wrap this up. If you compare this to the previous post, you'll see that I edited the first part for clarity and brevity. I expanded the second part, but only a bit. I'm pushing the input limits on number of characters. I think I've captured my thoughts and have some stuff I can use to counter these thoughts a bit. Here's where I'll end this...
"I tend to forecast rejection when seeking input from others. For example, when I have to review a design concept with someone, I forecast that the person will find some rudimentary flaw in the design. This leads to forecasts of the person calling me stupid, or telling me that they can't believe I made such a stupid mistake. The same thing happens when I need to ask for or comment on something, I automatically forecast "no" and/or imagine the person being insulted or annoyed by me."
"These thoughts tend to make me feel anxious and depressed. I still present my ideas, questions, and comments, primarily because it's my job. However, these thoughts do not represent the norm. The last time I presented a design concept it was well received. In fact, the previous concept was well received too. I can't remember the last time someone thought my question or remark was stupid, though I have been told I can be weird at times. The people I interact with treat others well. It is common for others to appreciate my input."
It's just a little more direct now. This is something I can review in the morning, mid-day, or evening, as needed.
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